Fear is a basic instinct…something that is hardwired into our minds. It is the basic “fight or flight” instinct that all humans have. It’s designed to protect us and keep us living. Often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death, and thus hang back for no good reason. Fear almost always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable. Fear can also be an instant reaction to something presently happening. Fear can be a manipulating and controlling factor in an individual’s life. It is healthy and necessary, however we must control it and not let it take over in the face of reason and your life of perfection.
We tend to let fear take over and all we do is live. We move from day to day fearing what might come next, trying to avoid anything that might put us at risk of being hurt, physically, mentally and/or emotionally. Why is it that the most difficult step to success is the first one? It’s because we fear the change and most of all we fear the failure. Any self-help guru will tell you, no matter what “program” their selling, TAKE THE FIRST STEP!
Make a decision and follow it. As long as you keep at it momentum will build and things will start happening at their own accord. Don’t be afraid of failure, what others will think of you, what MIGHT happen, as long as you’re moving you will not fail. Fear freezes us in our tracks. We suffer from paralyzation by analyzation. We become so intent in making the best choice that we do nothing at all and miss out on everything.
How do you conquer fear? By making choices and actively accepting the consequences. Don’t let things happen, choose to make them happen. Don’t make up stories about the choice you didn’t make, you didn’t make it so it’s inconsequential! Repeatedly confront fear. By confronting fears you can suppress the fear-triggering memory or stimulus. Start by making small choices, what to wear for the day, what/where to eat, what to read, what to watch, when to go to bed. You will start facing the paralysis of analysis and stop thinking about what to do and start doing it.
“The only thing we have to fear is fear it’self – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”
—- FDR – First Inaugural Address, March 4, 1933